Be sure to read the intro so that you understand what the terms used here mean and how they fit together.


Everyone suffers from some form of mental neurosis. This includes depression, anxiety, perfectionism, compulsions, phobias, aggressiveness and anger issues. If you talk to them or see them on social media – surprise! – they seem fine or even downright amazing! Most people see other people pretend to be OK and so they also pretend because they don’t want anyone to think they’re the weird, crazy or weak one. So we all go around suffering silently.

But I know from first-hand experience that if you talk with someone, make them feel safe, and truly listen to them, that they’ll open up and share their truth. That’s a beautiful thing. We’re all hurting and want to express what’s bothers, scares and pains us. That’s the shared human condition. And by opening up to others, and speaking our truth, we make stronger and deeper connections with others.


To be equanimous.

Goal Characteristics

To have your natural mental state be calm, centered, in the present moment and to deal with issues gracefully as they come.

To not be in a constant state of agitation or anger or to be anxious about the past or constantly worry about the future


  1. Meditate daily.
  2. See a therapist.
  3. Be social.
  4. Break the social media addiction

Skill Expressions